Try this the next time your child has an ADHD meltdown.
First of all, it’s never easy shopping with a child. I’ve done shopping with and without, and I can tell you, it’s like night and day.
Getting in and out of the car, shopping carts, reading labels, comparing prices.
If you get tired after shopping for an hour, imagine your child enduring it when all either of you want is to be at home relaxing, playing, or doing something more enjoyable.
Now, imagine that child has an attention problem. Plus they are hyperactive.
So now your child is restrained uncomfortably in a metal shopping cart, can’t get out and work off any energy, no one to talk to because mom’s talking to herself trying to focus on the shopping. And nothing to focus ANY attention on. Okay, so let’s complain to mom. Whine. Act out. Anything to get attention so that we can go home to our toys. And wonder why mom continues to ignore me, while other people are giving us mean looks.
That’s what moms of ADHD children face every day.
One mom recently had a very different experience. When this happened at the check out, one very nice store customer began talking to the child while mom was scanning groceries through the self-checkout. She paid attention to the child, validating the child’s feelings and asking her questions. The customer kept the child engaged through the checkout, and even helped mom to the car, where the additional chore of loading groceries and getting the children into car restraints was completed.
Wouldn’t it be nice if more people were thoughtful as this bystander was?
Moms have a hard enough time as it is; and it’s not always practical or possible to hire a sitter for all the errands that moms have to do every day.
Maybe you could be that person in the store who helps a mom. Could you volunteer to go along with a young mother who trusts you and help her out? Read more of the story here.